Moments of motherhood… 

Moments of motherhood… 

As women we make many choices. Most of them may not even be for us. Many of us are planners and with being a planner we map our lives out. See, we have this idea that things will go as planned. Ha!! Boy were we wrong. 

You know how people have this theory that first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby. They never mention college, starting your career, finding love (quite difficult) and finally the chance that a baby may not be in the cards, be extremely difficult and may even include many miscarriages, infant death and/or still borns. Your very first pregnancy has you über excited, and one morning you are bleeding uncontrollably. In my case, the morning after graduation which also happened to be Mother’s Day and my 1 year wedding anniversary. You have now become a member of a club that no one wants to be a part of. You have a million emotions and thoughts but the one at the top of the list is… No one understands. Eventually many women go on to get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy with a beautiful baby. Life gets better and wounds are healed. 

 
 Your beautiful baby is older and it’s now time to consider a sibling. You have this discussion and sometimes the next baby is planned, sometimes it isn’t. Doesn’t matter, you’re ecstatic! You don’t share the news with the public yet because you’re nervous due to previous experience. When you finally past the point you miscarried previously, you relax. Out of the blue, you discover a brown discharge which worries you because you never want to see any color while pregnant. Immediately you go to the E.R where they explain that both you and baby are well. You have what is called a “subchorionic hematoma”. They say you will both be fine since there is a strong heart beat for the baby. Off you went home with a smiling face! They were definitely wrong. A few weeks later, you go to your prenatal check ups and there is no heart beat. They try to explain but you stop hearing words, only silence and ringing in your ears. You think to yourself ” not again”. In the back of your mind you were always terrified of losing another but when it happens it still crushes. A week later they prescribe pills to start the process because your body is holding on to the pregnancy. The doctor provides clear instructions to take 2 pills, if they don’t work, take 2 more 48 hrs later. Well, 48 hrs later down went 2 more pills that changed life forever. You began to bleed, you bled so bad that you could only crawl to the bathroom. you were passing hand size clots and bleeding through pads and diapers. Blood was everywhere and the toilet was so full of blood everytime that it was almost purple. you cried at the idea that my child was in my toilet, cried because you were so weak and cried because you couldn’t believe it was happening again but worse. 

(Here’s where the story gets deeper). 

The next morning my daughter (3) was in the room with me making sure I was ok, I wasn’t. I called the doctor and his nurse said that he wasn’t available but my symptoms were normal. I had rapid pulse, excessive bleeding and excessive sweating. I called the hospital and the on-call Doctor in turn called my doctor. While I waited I went to the bathroom and when I reached the toilet I asked my daughter to call daddy and nana because mommy needs help. From there I fainted as I heard her little voice yelling through the house. My husband tried to wake me but I couldn’t stay awake. He carried me to the car and rushed me to the hospital while talking to 9-11. When we arrived I still couldn’t stay awake. A long night of passing my clots, trying to stop the bleeding, fainting, seizing and tachycardia, led me to finally have my blood drawn. My hemoglobin was a 3. I had 2 blood transfusions, emergency d&c, potassium and magnesium transfusions and a 3 day stay in ICU. 14 doctors, my daughter and husband saved my life. God knows this experience has changed me. I went through a metamorphosis that was so great that I no longer recognized myself. Sometimes I still don’t. It hasn’t been a year yet. July will make 1 year. Depression is real and it’s over powering, intrusive and dark. You make decisions that you otherwise wouldn’t, you think things that you wouldn’t. You’re just different. When life throws curve ball after curve ball directly at you but you survive, you can only go with the premise that you’re meant to be here with some great purpose. I’m no superhero. I have and am currently going through so much that I never reveal. However; I am strong! Ive realized that I am breakable but the pieces come back together. Never the same way though. What I am is a human mother, wife, daughter, sister and friend. I am only me and I’m beyond grateful for every second of every minute of every day. 

The roads I walk are dark. But after a rain storm comes a rainbow! Both of my children are/will be Rainbow babies! There is a beautiful light. 

  

  

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Wow! 

Wow! 

I didn’t realize I’ve been away for so long. It’s easy to get caught up in life, especially as a mom, wife, student and business owner. How do you keep it all together. You’re pulled in so many different directions and you rarely notice it. We must remember that moms need personal time. If you haven’t found an awesome hobby or a great “moms day” activity, I would suggest that you do and quickly. Never lose sight of the fact that you are still an amazing woman and not just mommy and wife (although those are great roles)! Have an awesome day rockstar! 

  

After breastfeeding weight gain

After breastfeeding weight gain

I am not sure just how many women have experienced what I am about to discuss, but here goes. As women we have a ton of issues that surround pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. Guys, I know that we may drive you crazy with our emotional roller coaster, but we mean no harm! It is all so overwhelming sometimes. I had an issue with weight gain after I stopped breastfeeding. I dropped most of my baby weight within a month of giving birth and I was excited. Within the coming months, it shedding even faster. Well, after I stopped breastfeeding, I noticed that my clothes got tighter, and of course my breast got smaller. What was going on?? My breast were smaller then before I became pregnant. I now had a belly that made me look four months pregnant. Can you say depressing!! My husband was super supportive, but I was annoyed with the change. I am sure that a book somewhere describes this weight gain, but I did not care. I felt bamboozled! I did light exercise, but it was not helping at all! I started the Mutu System, but gave up 3 times. In February my daughter turned 1, that was my turning point. I decided to really get into my routine, restarted Mutu and began clean eating. I finally see progress!

Anyone else have this experience??

Breastfeeding Q and A

Breastfeeding Q and A

So I recently read an article in the Time magazine about Jamie Lynne Grumet, who is the cover story. She breastfeeds her 3 almost 4 year old son off her breast to induce or continue bonding. It is called attachment parenting. Dr Sears discusses this alot, along with baby carrying in a sling, and co-sleeping. As a breastfeeding mom, I am curious to hear the thought of others on this topic. Grumet feels that children should wean themselves at their own pace. Do you think that a child should wean them self off the breast? Do you think she should pump versus feeding a toddler off her breast? Do you think it will have lasting psychological effects? She says that her mom breastfed her from the breast until she was 6 years old and she remembers. Is it different for a young boy?? Please join this conversation with respect for others opinions, great opinions give great insight. Does anyone have first hand experience with breastfeeding a toddler? Co-sleeping or sling wearing? Looking forward to the comments!

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